“I only date ________ women/men.” The line between racial preferences and straight …

source: pinterest This post is inspired by the recent backlash received by rapper Kodak Black a few weeks ago pertaining to his dating preferences; specifically that he only prefers light skin black women. Side note: I don’t personally listen to Kodak black or care for him really, but his comments sparked my interest because as a darker black woman, we…
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Can you teach people how to treat you?

This is a topic I have struggled to come to terms with; especially when you are born with the capacity to love and overdo it (and I mean, really overdo it). Can you teach people how to treat you? If you have been treated badly by a friend, family member, lover, crush, is it inherently your fault? Will you always…
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“Never give 100% of yourself to someone you love!”

“Esther, you need to be a little meaner/a bitch. Men love bitches.” “You do too much, you love with all of your heart. In the ends it leaves you hurt and empty.” “You need to have higher standards and you also need to marry a man who loves you much more than you love him” “the one who cares less,…
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Valentine’s Day Guide for my single gals

picture: pinterest.com I’m single as a pringle. Valentine’s Day was the equivalent to a spoonful of Buckley’s on a sick day. February 14th was always deemed a day of discomfort, moping, complaining, and one big WHY AM I ALWAYS SINGLE TODAY? I am also an incurable romantic. My parents (God bless them), have shown me over and over again that…
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Choose Your Damn Self.

Unrequited love is by far one of the WORST life lessons to go through (for me at least). I’m a giver, I go out of my way for people, I have tons of that mushy-gooey type of love that poets and writers thrive from…and for  while, I hated it. I hated it because people I love(d) took advantage of it.…
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